Happy Birthday Mother

Happy Birthday Mother

Today would have been my mother’s 97th birthday. I wonder if, in her right mind, she would have wanted to live that long. There have been so many changes in the world. She wouldn’t recognize it. But then, with the last years of her life being seen through Alzheimer’s, she wouldn’t have recognized me.

One of the things about today’s world is the number of people affected by Alzheimer’s disease. There is still no cure. Research continues, and new medications change the outlook, but not the outcome.

One thing that remains the same is the toll this disease takes on caregivers. Caring for a loved one, a spouse, a family member, or a friend is difficult at best, heartbreaking at worst. But still, there are moments of humor. I remember laughing with my mother over silly things. It didn’t matter what we laughed at, it was just the idea of hearing her laugh that made life worthwhile.

My mother had a good sense of humor. She would have found the humor in some of the things about her life under the influence of Alzheimer’s. She could laugh at herself. But more importantly, we could laugh together. Near the end, when communication is difficult, laughing is a nice relief.

I would hope that, with groups like The Alzheimer’s Association, the Fisher Center for Alzheimer’s Research Foundation, the Alzheimer’s Foundation, and other charities, a cure will be coming soon. Whenever that happens, my mother will be pleased.

Caring for her taught me that I wasn’t alone. I found a caregiver support group. I cannot speak too highly about that group. Some of the lessons I learned within that group will stay with me forever. I learned things that help me in dealing with all people, not just those affected by Alzheimer’s.

I have said that I would have my mother back in a heartbeat, but not to the life she had. Finding a cure for Alzheimer’s would be a nice birthday gift for her. It will happen someday, but not today. Today is for fond remembrances of my mother.

Happy Birthday Mother, missing you daily, loving you eternally.

1 Comment

  1. toomanydoors
    Sep 8, 2015

    Happy Birthday, Hattie. We miss you every day.

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